Becoming HER: Straight Talk for Healing, Embodying, and Radiating as Your Most Powerful Self by Monica Yates 

If you’ve ever questioned your worth or felt like you need to adopt masculine traits to succeed, Becoming HER will show you how to rise above it; not by changing who you are, but by fully embracing yourself.

Monica Yates champions self-acceptance and confidence in young women, arguing against the unattainable ideal of perfection.

What Becoming HER is About:

We’ve all doubted ourselves, feeling like we need to be “more” to be taken seriously. More assertive, more ambitious, more like a man. Society tells women to be strong but not too strong, kind but not too soft, successful but not intimidating. And somewhere along the way, we start to believe that who we are isn’t enough.

Becoming HER by Monica Yates is a wake-up call for women who feel like they’re constantly trying to fit into a mold that was never made for them. Perfection isn’t achievable; yet women are constantly expected to have it all together, balancing career, relationships, and personal growth. But that was never the solution.

This book digs into the solution. It’s not about shrinking to fit expectations or exhausting yourself trying to be everything for everyone. It explores how many women, worn down by self-doubt, unintentionally suppress their own power in an attempt to meet unrealistic standards. 

This book addresses the power of balancing masculine and feminine energy; not choosing one over the other, but understanding how both can work together. Real confidence doesn’t come from forcing yourself to fit a role; it comes from fully owning who you are.

For the woman who’s tired of questioning herself, Becoming HER is the guide to be herself unapologetically.

My Take on Becoming HER:

We live in a world where people are constantly pressured to be better. Women need to be everything for everyone.

But do they need to?

What I especially appreciated in this book was how the author didn’t just say, “Be Yourself”, she explains how. She highlights the pressure women face worldwide but also provides practical steps to help them break free from these constraints. She provided personal experiences, her clients’ stories, and reality based scenarios that perfectly laid out all the barriers that hold women back.

Her writing is engaging and easy to follow. She speaks directly to the reader, making it feel less like a lecture and more like a conversation. Instead of complicated theories, she simplifies concepts, making them accessible to anyone looking to transform their mindset.

The book also offers actionable advice rather than vague motivation. The author describes clear steps on how to create boundaries and stop seeking external validation. It’s a refreshing take that feels realistic rather than overwhelming.

What makes Becoming HER stand out is its honesty. It doesn’t promise overnight success or claims that confidence is just a mindset shift away. Instead, it acknowledges that unlearning years of self-doubt takes time. But with the right tools and perspective, it’s possible.

As Monica says in her book, 

“The Choice is yours to take.”

It isn’t about being perfect. You just need to become who you were meant to be.

Trigger warning:

Mature language/Curse Words. The book is recommended to ages 16+.

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