Rudeness Rehab: Reclaim Civility with This Powerful Book By John M. O’Brien

Have you ever wished you could go back in time and remove all the rude things you’ve told other people? Have you ever regretted doing something or saying something that led to a bad mental state for yourself and others?

If the answer to any of these is ‘Yes’, then this book is for you and all of us who are guilty of doing an action we didn’t want to. Most of us are guilty and depressed for a certain time because of something brash we might’ve said before.

How to deal with it? How to avoid doing the same act again?

Read the book “Rudeness Rehab” by John M O’Brien to find out!

What Rudeness Rehab is About:

We humans can be rude. All of us have the habit of behaving less than perfectly to others. When we’re angry and stressed out, we exhibit behaviors that often do not reflect who we usually are. It’s as if a switch flips, and suddenly we’re unkind. We all do it.

We get reactive, lose our patience, and then snap at someone, or worse. We can treat our fellow humans in a way that we would not want to be treated.

This is known as being “Incivil”. The author has said with plausible research that being rude to others may not harm us, but it can all come back to us one day in the form of depression, rage, or worse, a disease. 

This book discusses how Incivility is a growing problem in today’s society, and we should all be aware of it. This book is all about changing yourself and inspiring others to do so, too.

Whether it is addressing an addiction, adopting a new exercise program, or implementing organizational strategies in our lives, we as humans encounter difficulty when it comes to changing, even when it is in our best interest. 

We often need to be motivated to do so by the pain of what is known in the addiction world as “hitting bottom.” People experience a “turning point” when the pain of change becomes less than the pain of keeping the behavior the same. Is this true for you when it comes to dealing with incivility? Is our society “hitting bottom”, and are we all motivated to change? These are questions that John O’Brien answers through his book Rudeness Rehab: Reclaiming Civility in the Workplace and Your Home Space.

My Take on Rudeness Rehab:

Today’s social and political climate leaves many feeling hopeless about the future of our society if we continue to treat each other disrespectfully. 

“If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.”

Yet, making the change is a daunting task.  

However, the author doesn’t just focus on the negative aspects of incivility and provides practical advice on how to deal with it. 

The book is well-researched with many concrete examples from the author’s personal life and professional practice. It provided a lot of useful information that we could apply to own own life. 

This book gives the readers practical tools in the form of questions, stories, and practical examples to deal with and manage their behaviors.

The author’s writing is engaging and easy to follow. I found myself nodding along while reading it. Adding his personal experiences at the start of the chapter was an amazing addition to the book, since it made me get hooked from the very beginning.

The author breaks down complex topics into easy little points to understand ideas that anyone can easily comprehend. He also explained the very fundamentals of living a peaceful life.

He wrote in his book, 

“Things often get worse before they get better.”

The main reason this book stands out from all the other self-help books out there is the fact that he didn’t sugarcoat it, nor did he exaggerate. He explained it in simple words. For many, the rehab process may take long, and they might backslide into their old behaviors. 

Readers will learn that reclaiming civility is about choosing to respond differently to stressful situations, including the uncivil behavior of others.

However, being civil doesn’t mean being a doormat to others. Rather, it is about how to be skillful in navigating life.

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